I like your blog! (But you are stupid and careless...)

Our friend Ashley at Cherished Bliss had a reader who didn't just leave her a comment... this reader went out of her way to fill out Ashley's contact form and email her directly.


The Kooky Emailer:
Subject: like your blog

What interests you the most?: Tutorials, Recipes, Shopping
Message: I like your blog...you have some fun and original ideas.
But, please please please learn to spell correctly, and use proper grammar and punctuation...maybe a writing class at a communiy college...it would make your blog so much more enjoyable to read.


Ashley Says:
Seriously... she's attacking my PUNCTUATION when her email clearly is not properly punctuated.  While I love to use the infamous "..."  they are not grammatically correct, I know that and so does she, but she still uses them!!  
So I replied to her email and wrote:

It's a blog, not a book. Before you write somebody about proper grammer, you might consider using it in your own paragraph.

Thank you,
Ashley

She wrote back again!

True...it is a blog and not a book...but you sound stupid and careless when you post and words are spelled incorrectly. I know it is fun to lash out when you have been criticized ...but, I'm right...
I'm sure I do have misspelled words and grammatical errors, I would like to know if she writes blog posts with a toddler screaming and a one year old pulling on her arm! It's a miracle I type posts up sometimes. If I was writing a blog on the English language I might put a little more thought in to it! 


Viv Says:
Wow.  Shouldn't there be commas in between all of those pleases?   
What the heck is a communiy college?  
You know what else sounds stupid and careless?  Contacting someone on the pretense of paying them a compliment, but really using it as a springboard to start criticizing.    It's also stupid and careless put your foot in your mouth and then try to get a splinter out of someone's eye.  When you fall over, all you do is shove the plank further into your own eye.  Owwie.
I am a huge fan of the ellipsis (...) and just can't help myself...


Mandi Says:
No.  Really?  So super unecessary people.  I think that it is 100 times more tacky to start a critique that is rude with a compliment.  If you are going to take the time to compliment someone then you can take the time to make your criticism constructive.  The end. If the original email wasnt supposed to have a harsh tone when the hater wrote back she should have said something like "Ashley I really do love your blog.  I know that you take a lot of time on each post and I just have your best interest at heart."  Instead of freaking out.  The end....again.


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Haters that pin things on Pinterest? Whaaat...!?

Something we at My Favorite Hate Mail didn't think about when we started this blog was the potential for mean comments to show up on Pinterest!


Julie from It's Sew Stinkin' Cute threw an adorable Micky Mouse Chef birthday party for her 3 year old daughter.  Pictures of the party were ultimately pinned to Pinterest boards.


The comment:
"Uneccessary should be the theme of the party :)" 
 Another comment, in response to the first
"hahaha I know but its sooo cute"


What Julie said: 
She responded with a link to this picture...

Hope you are having a good weekend. I am sorry that you don't appreciate my love of crafts and parties. Regardless of your comment thank you for pinning this and looking at my blog. Have a great school year! 


What Julie wanted to say:
Why did you feel the need to pin it under your Birthday Parties board if you felt it so "unnecessary". If you have nothing nice to say don't say it at all, you're obviously jealous that you can't create cute things from scratch like me. Oh, and did you realize you spelled "Unecessary" incorrectly? If you're going to hate, at least spell your hate mail correctly.  So to all of the haters that think just because you put a smiley face on the end of a tacky comment it makes it better... you're wrong, it is still tacky, rude and inconsiderate. 


Viv says:
Wow. I don't understand why someone would pin something to an inspiration board if they didn't like it.  So basically, if anything is unnecessary, it would be this lame person who spends time on Pinterest, pinning things they don't like.  Life is too short to pin things that you don't like.  

Also? All birthday parties, holidays, celebrations, etc are technically "unnecessary"  but we have them anyway.  We put love into the details because we care about the people we are do it all for. Duh.  How much would it suck to only live your life in a way that was necessary...?


Mandi says:
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! The haters are corrupting the beautiful time suck that is Pinterest?!?!  What is this world coming to?  Yes, birthday parties are unnecessary but so are pants.  You still wear pants don't you?  Also if you don't throw your kid a birthday party you have mom guilt for an entire year about it. (Trust me I know first hand).  Yay for Julie and her cute party and meanies...pin this.

And for the rest of you:

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Some home remodel projects require stealth. It's just the way it is.

Loraine at Breakfast 4 Dinner encounters what many of us have encountered before: a husband that can't get with our DIY program.   He can't see our vision, he can't understand our concept... so sometimes we just go ahead and do it.  
Then, lo and behold! He gets it... He likes it... He's happy we did it.  (Until the next time when he forgets that we know what we're doing and we go through the same song and dance again...)
Loraine wrote up a funny post about how she started to re-do some counter tops, thinking she had hours to complete the project, but her husband decided to come home early.  She got not one, but two snarky comments doling out criticism and marital advice.

Anonymous #1 said...

So....... you did some remodeling without discussing it with your husband purposely and lied about it. Yeah.... if I was your husband I would consider whether or not I would leave you. Who knows what other kinds of huge decisions you would make behind my back. There would be a lack of trust regardless if he liked the outcome or not. Communication and trust are very important factors in having a successful marriage.

Anonymous #2 said...

You shouldn't have to hide stuff unless you know it is wrong or a surprise because you care or love the person.

Our Slammed Blogger says:

Wow anonymous, Thanks you so much for the most awesome marriage advice. But I shouldn't take advice from some one that would be so quick to divorce.  Now here is some for you:

1.Don't jump to judgment or conclusions.

2. Research before you leave such a hate-full comment.
You obviously aren't familiar with my blog at all. If you had taken the time to scroll down to some of my other postings to learn a little more about me, you would soon figure out that my husband is a very, very easy going guy and likes my home remodeling projects and that he doesn't require me to consult him before I start one because 

• a.He totally trusts my judgment
• b.Because I don't require him to help me with them at all
• c.Because he knows that I start projects spontaneously. 

He knew that before we got married and that is one of the things loves about me. I get an idea in my head and within 5 minutes I have the power tools out.  As a matter of fact, he wouldn't have it any other way because he loves it when I am happy. And yes, I did do a home remodeling project without telling him because of the reasons above. The reason I hid everything from him is yes, because I wanted to surprise him with the finished project. Not come home to a mess in the kitchen with no counter tops because I love him and want him to be able to come home and relax without having to smell stinky wood varnish.

3. Please call your mother and ask her why she forgot to teach you manners.

By the way....I finished the counter tops today and My husband loves them and took the old ones out to the curb for me and finished cooking dinner so I could finish up one last coat of paint.

It's good that I'm not married to you because I would have a very hard time dealing with a very rude control freak of a spouse that I'm sure you are. If you're even married at all.

Viv says:
Loraine clearly said it all regarding the anonymous comments, but I am cracking up over the hypocrisy contained in them! 

Anonymous comment #1 touts communication and trust as highly important in a relationship, yet would advocate leaving a spouse without getting the full story. (In other words, Anonymous' spouse probably lives in constant fear that they'll leave over some  misunderstanding.)

Anonymous comment #2 says you should only hide things if you know it's wrong, or if you're planning a surprise party.  (In other words, it's OK to do The Wrong Thing if you hide it.  Accountability is for suckers.)  Nice.

(By the way.  Who doesn't love the occasional omelette or stack of pancakes for dinner!?)

Mandi says:

Gosh you two already said it all!  As I was reading the first anonymous comment the thought I had was, oh poor girl.  Her husband is one of those freaky types that like to have a say in stuff....She must not be a DIY blogger.  Hee hee hee
And as for #2 if you were cheating on your husband and he caught you and you said SURPRISE!  Does that mean that its all good in the hood? 

I also just need to profess my love for anonymous commenters.  You make my life so happy and full of laughter.  Thank you and keep it up meanies!

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The Anti-Social Quilt Project

Amber at Quilted Euphoria wrote up this post where she described how and why she made this tongue in cheek, cute little sign regarding unexpected visitors.

She received the following Anonymous comment:

I feel it's offensive and passive agressive behavior. Have you ever said, "I know you took the time to come to see me/us, but I just don't want any company today. Maybe you could call me tomorrow and we'll set up a time to get together." It's truthful, kind, and handled in a mature way. You, and many others, may find it funny but I doubt you'd feel that way if someone hung that on their door and you dropped by to say "hi." But as they say, "opinions are like noses...everybody has one." 

Amber says:

Um...excuse me? So many things wrong with this person! Let's count them, shall we?

1. This is my blog, my home, and my sign. If you don't like what it says, you're welcome to leave.
2. Sometimes people just don't respond to "nice". Sometimes you just can't get the person to leave, without being "passive aggressive".
3. Guess what? I think it's funny and so do the seventeen comments before yours from people with an actual sense of humor.
4. Get a life.

Viv says:

I've seen a similar sign for sale in Hallmark.  I had no idea that Hallmark was offensive and passive aggressive.  Who knew?!

Mandi says:

As Michelle on Full House would say "Oh Puuuleeeeeeeeeze."  I never answer my door (well, since the paparazzi started camping out on my lawn).  I thought the sign was funny.  Its her house she can do what she wants (duh).  Just like you Miss Anonymous can put up a sign on your front door that says "Caution, enter at your own risk.  I am perfect and am probably going to judge the crap out of you.  I am also chicken pants and dont usuallyre attach my name to my critiques, so I probably wont say it to your face but to everyone else in the neighborhoood.  Consider yourself warned"

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Oooooh! Mandi's Got A Hater!

Hey Everyone!! Mandi here.
So here is deal.  Anonymous comments are freakin LAME.  We all know this right? But the most annoying ones are the ones that are written out of complete and utter spite.  I just wrote a post about 10 Bloggy No No's that I have had to learn from during my time blogging.  And pretty quickly recieved this comment:

Anonymous said...

Love how you say not to be negative when you are pointing out everything everyone else is doing wrong. And yeah, I am breaking one of your "rules" leaving an anonymous comment.

Mandi Says:
Whoa whoa whoa.  Slow the crazy train down and pull it into the Station-o-Common Sense. First off, let me just say my dear, that if you were trying to make me feel bad, you sorta were not awesome at it...womp womp. 
Secondly, the post was not a list of “rules” nor was it written negatively.  You must have overlooked the first line of the post, where I preface it by saying that most of these mistakes are ones that I have made MYSELF.  You also must have missed the part at the end where I warned that any rude comments could end up on Hate Mail, so by leaving me a rude, anonymous comment, you've made yourself the Guest of Honor today.  Enjoy your 15 seconds of fame lady!
I love blogging and I love my readers, so the point that you are CLEARLY missing (that everyone else seemed to get), is that I am trying to share what I have learned so that others don’t make the same mistakes that I have.  This in turn, helps to make my amazing readers' blogs more successful. Please explain to me how that can at all be considered "negative."
Most people are able to resist the urge to be mean or spiteful. You know, knowing that with a little bit of self control (or by simply leaving someones blog) that the negative feelings they have inside wont get wiped up and down blogland like a cruddy diaper.  Since you my dear must not have these flair up sensors, I gladly invite you to spend your time online elsewhere and let Vintage Revivals be a place of positive spray paint fumes.  

p.s. I think you might be allergic to my happiness. (You might want to get that checked...along with the flair up issue. Its no bueno.)

I would also like to thank the readers that stood up for me in the comments, it means a lot ladies!

Viv Says:
Um, so I'm clear... pointing out the proper (or more favorable way to do something) is negative...?  
I only lather my hair once during a shampoo... but the shampoo bottles all say to "lather, rinse, repeat"  are the shampoo companies negative?   If the furniture refinishing experts point out you should lightly sand between coats, but I never do?  Does that make the experts negative..?
Mandi gave some guidelines. She outlined things that she has observed in her own personal blogging experience.  (Which so far appears to be pretty successful, btw. I'd give her a listen when she hands out advice.)   There is no Blogger's 101... no Blogger By-Laws... you learn by experience, watching what other bloggers do or don't do.    She shared, people.  And if you read through the rest of the comments on that post, you'll notice that there are bloggers who didn't know they could enable their email for replies... people who didn't realize that their word verification option was enabled and/or how to change the option... people who didn't know there are many readers out there who actually don't like music playing on a blog... In other words? They appreciated Mandi's help.
My guess is that anonymous does all of these "no-nos"  and is either a) a misguided rebel; b) has serious issues with constructive criticism; or c) is just lame.
Or possibly, d) all of the above...

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Today's special! Mean comments and tampons!

Heather is a college student and has a fun little personal blog called The World Is Your Oyster.  A while back, she wrote a post about a funny incident at a local store.  She needed a few, um, personal items including {tampons... shhh}. She wrote this post, appropriately titled Awkward,  about the experience.  She tried to make it clear that it was not her first time buying tampons, and that normally it's not a big deal, but this time  she had to select the right feminine hygiene product in the middle of 6 guys that live in the same building that she does.  She just thought it was funny, how uncomfortable a box of feminine hygiene products can make college-aged boys.


You know what?  Even with a funny, tongue in cheek post, there are still jerkwads out there.


The Jerkwad said:
"Educated decision in the tampon aisle eh? have you never bought them
for yourself before? you've been living away from home for three years
at BYU and you still have to think about this decision? Hhhonestly,
your life could be a lot simpler. Let me offer a humble suggestion to
your predicament.http://www.us.depend.com/

Yours,
Anonymous
P.S. You're welcome"


Heather said:
My sister's reply was my favorite. She said:
"Dear Anonymous,

Don't worry, I'm sure they have Midol in the Creamery as well. You seem to have lost yours, since you've been PMSing all over the internet."


Viv says:
Seriously?  Who leaves a cruddy comment on a funny story?  I love the sister's reply about "PMSing all over the internet." Hilarious.  The link for Depends kind of throws me though.  Are they saying Heather is being a cry-baby...?  That she should use Depends instead of tampons...?  What?  Perhaps the Jerkwad is a guy an needs to brush up on his knowledge of a woman's anatomy...?  At any rate, totally sounds like a person with chronic, raging PMS to me..


Mandi says:
LOL! Now THIS is a funny post. I dont get the depends link either...maybe thats the only way this lady can control her PMSing?  And poor cute Heather, I dare say that most guys in college especially when there are 6 together can be unbelievibly immature, it would be awkward for anyone!!  Hee hee hee, I am still laughing about this!   I am so glad that Jerky McJerkface left a jerky jerk comment so that we could read Heather's hilarious tale.

Ps I just used the word jerk 4 times in one sentence! Yay Me!!



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The racist dumpling.

Emily from Decor Chick is one of our favorite bloggers.  She's always sharing some fantastic home decor or DIY tips with her readers.  In this post, she shared how happy and excited she was that her brother was getting married.  Her new sister-in-law, whom Emily adores, is Japanese.  Emily ended her post saying that she sees "a lot of homemade dumplings in my future. :)"


A comment from Anonymous:
dumplings? isn’t that kind of racist?


Decor Chick says:
Racist? Ummm, not so much. Doesn’t great chinese food come from the Chinese/China? And doesn’t great Italian food come from Italy, and so on and so on? She happens to make the most mouth-watering dumplings I’ve ever had. Don’t be jealous please.


Viv says:
I'm cracking up over this.  What a pot sticker stirrer this person is!  
I am half Italian, half Redneck.  I make an excellent lasagna and fab baby back ribs.  If someone mentioned they were looking forward to eating them, I would take it as a sign that they enjoyed my cooking, not that they thought I was some Guido (ette?) who somehow meandered through Texas.    


Mandi says:
When I saw Em's post I was totally JEALOUS.  Obviously Anonymous is too.  Comments like this that are soooo lame make me want to lash out violently. 

Oh my gosh, I just got the best idea!  When my Bro-in-law gets married I am SO going to say to the girl, "I see a lot of Burangos in your future."

For those of you jumping to conclusions about what a Burango is, let me clear it up.  Its a burrito at our resturant. 

Get your minds out of the gutter.

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