Wednesday, October 26, 2011

I like your blog! (But you are stupid and careless...)

Our friend Ashley at Cherished Bliss had a reader who didn't just leave her a comment... this reader went out of her way to fill out Ashley's contact form and email her directly.


The Kooky Emailer:
Subject: like your blog

What interests you the most?: Tutorials, Recipes, Shopping
Message: I like your blog...you have some fun and original ideas.
But, please please please learn to spell correctly, and use proper grammar and punctuation...maybe a writing class at a communiy college...it would make your blog so much more enjoyable to read.



Ashley Says:
Seriously... she's attacking my PUNCTUATION when her email clearly is not properly punctuated.  While I love to use the infamous "..."  they are not grammatically correct, I know that and so does she, but she still uses them!!  
So I replied to her email and wrote:

It's a blog, not a book. Before you write somebody about proper grammer, you might consider using it in your own paragraph.
Thank you,
Ashley

She wrote back again!
True...it is a blog and not a book...but you sound stupid and careless when you post and words are spelled incorrectly. I know it is fun to lash out when you have been criticized ...but, I'm right...
I'm sure I do have misspelled words and grammatical errors, I would like to know if she writes blog posts with a toddler screaming and a one year old pulling on her arm! It's a miracle I type posts up sometimes. If I was writing a blog on the English language I might put a little more thought in to it! 



Viv Says:
Wow.  Shouldn't there be commas in between all of those pleases?   
What the heck is a communiy college?  
You know what else sounds stupid and careless?  Contacting someone on the pretense of paying them a compliment, but really using it as a springboard to start criticizing.    It's also stupid and careless put your foot in your mouth and then try to get a splinter out of someone's eye.  When you fall over, all you do is shove the plank further into your own eye.  Owwie.
I am a huge fan of the ellipsis (...) and just can't help myself...


Mandi Says:
No.  Really?  So super unecessary people.  I think that it is 100 times more tacky to start a critique that is rude with a compliment.  If you are going to take the time to compliment someone then you can take the time to make your criticism constructive.  The end. If the original email wasnt supposed to have a harsh tone when the hater wrote back she should have said something like "Ashley I really do love your blog.  I know that you take a lot of time on each post and I just have your best interest at heart."  Instead of freaking out.  The end....again.


What do you say?







21 comments:

clearness said...

Sounds like someone is just jealous that they don't come up with nice ideas? Man alive some people are just too mean to breathe. I mean....whatever.

Rach said...

Maybe the kooky emailer had a case of the Monday's? That's all I've got.

Obviously said emailer didn't have the balls to say this in public, hence the email and not a comment. And really, how dare she!

Gloria Fox @ Potentially Beautiful said...

Before I ever would criticize someone's grammar or spelling, I would at least send my comment through spell check and proofread several times. Not doing that is...stupid and careless!

I overuse the ellipsis, I know this, and don't care. :-)

The Answer Is Chocolate said...

I think one of the downsides of the internet ( which has many more upsides than down) is that it emboldens people to say things they would not say face to face, or say them in a way they woulnd't face to face. I think these comments say far more about the commenter than anyone else. And like Forrest Gump, that's all I have to say about that!

The Scrappy Housewife said...

Well, I'm not always perfect in my grammar and punctuation, but I'll admit that if I run across a blog (or any other form of communication) with horrible grammar that impedes my ability to read it - then I just don't read it. It's happened. I think blog communication is a little more relaxed and the ellipses are passable, I do it all the time. It's not a term paper. But again, if you don't like the way someone writes - then just don't read it. Maybe they were trying to be helpful, but there's a difference between constructive criticism and just being hurtful. If you can't say anything nice...

MiMi said...

I was thinking the same thing about the commas between the words please, please, please.
If you start to complain to me about grammar and punctuation and I can notice the glaring mistakes you have made, then you have lost me right there.
BTW, I told a friend to submit her stuff to you because she got lambasted pretty badly...Mindie from Bacon Time. Just wanted to give you a heads up!

The Scrappy Housewife said...

Oh and I should say that I picked a random tutorial from Cherished Bliss. It was coherent, easy to read and follow along. The horrible grammar I was referring to was *not* readable. At all. In any way. But I just moved on rather than e-mailing such a snarky comment. I agree with The Answer is Chocolate - the internet gives people the balls they wouldn't have in real life.

Jen said...

The end of Mandi's commentary really hit the nail on the head. Instead of blatantly pointing out someone's flaws and making them feel terrible, let them know you are doing it to try and be helpful. People are just SO RUDE... and when they think they AREN'T is when it's even more frustrating.

Judy C said...

Hey! My grammar and spelling are great. My typing often sucks. But if you are one of those folks who complains, it's your personality that sucks.

~♥~ Sara @ Doodle Dandy ~♥~ said...

I think this person can't like the blog that much otherwise she would not take the grammar and punctuation so seriously. For goodness sake we rant and write our thought on blogs, they are an extension of ourselves which people should appreciate and not be so critical. I have a job where I need to use grammar and punctuation on a daily basis, I'm sure I mess up more than I like to say...(oops) live and let live, and go get a life Ms Grammar Cop!!!

Myya said...

What is wrong with people? Were they not taught "If you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all" Seriously, what a jerk that person was!

If it is grammer & punctuation this gal loathes, she better not come to my spot in bloggyland cuz I'm sure I'd get a lashing. LOL

Good Time Charlie said...

I would like to know how to sign up for communiy college. Maybe I can learn some creative spelling and grammatical tricks there. I LOVE this blog way too much. Can't believe how much sick pleasure I get out of people's dumb meanness. BTW, I can deal with a screaming 9 year old boy, a hormonal teenage girl, and mouthy 9 year old prima donna, and manage to type all at the same time. but the words will make no sense. Much the same as my children do when they all decide to show off their arguing skills at the same time. Clearly this woman has no children, no life, and needs to enroll herself in a COMMUNITY colllege, but maybe she should just start with the Hight School extension with Adult continuing education.

Theophanie said...

This might be the funniest blog ever!

Cherished Bliss said...

So glad I'm not the only one who thought it was slightly ridiculous! I was sure to share the link to post for her : )

l said...

Spelling and grammar errors happen all the time. If no one ever points out your error, you will never know it exists!

I posted a recipe once, for Pork and Polenta. It was a delicious dish that I made up on the fly, it was cheap, and a HUGE hit at my house.

But, I made a mistake. I posted "Porn and Polenta". Now, this is an unintentional error, that I was so happy to be told about. Several times. By many readers, most of them making fun of me.

I fixed the mistake. I didn't bitch and moan and complain about excuses.

You're/your
Their/there/they're
I/me

These are very common mistakes, that are easy to learn correctly.

It sounds like someone emailed you privately with feedback. You responded, then published it here?

Way to drive more people to your blog...but, for all the wrong reasons.

Cherished Bliss said...

To the commenter above:

If she would have simply pointed out an area of my blog that she did not understand, or if there was an error I would have gladly fixed it and thanked her.

BUT suggesting to take a course at a community college is NOT constructive, it is rude and unnecessary.

She has YET to tell me any errors in any post. So I have nothing to fix.

Mary said...

I'm a language arts teacher, and I don't feel a need to point out all the grammatical/spelling errors I see because those things happen, especially on blogs where the subject is casual (I'm not saying the subject isn't important). The fact is, people who feel the need to point out others' flaws, whether it be in writing or anything else, have issues.

I make the occasional grammar error myself when I am typing on my blog or Facebook or whatever. The world keeps spinning regardless.

Denyse@Crazy Beautiful Life said...

If I start writing in proper English it would take the fun out of me blogging...LOL

Like you said it's a blog and not a book!!! Maybe we should send our blog posts out to get a good proof read ;-)

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Raquel English said...

Some people are so envious and resentful of others success and creativity.

Underneath sarcasm is most often jealousy. Many people don't want others to succeed. It threatening!

You know what they say about the church (I'm LDS)? Any publicity, is good publicity. This applies here as well. She's obviously coming to the site, and I would bet she does all of the time.

Kill them with kindness.

Cat said...

I say, come on people focus on what these blogs are about! I enjoy reading them and reading about all the stuff these people have accomplished. It gives me hope to accomplish some of it on my own. I don't even take the time to reflect on the punctuation or the spelling. I may notice it but jeez louise-this isn't a book being published where they have an editor to change all that. Lighten up and enjoy the posts. I guarantee you will feel a lot better!!
P.S. I just got finishing reading most but not all (Had to save some for later) of Tidbits with the Tremaynes. Now that woman is my hero cause she does it all and with four kids AND a husband!!!

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