Haters that pin things on Pinterest? Whaaat...!?

Something we at My Favorite Hate Mail didn't think about when we started this blog was the potential for mean comments to show up on Pinterest!


Julie from It's Sew Stinkin' Cute threw an adorable Micky Mouse Chef birthday party for her 3 year old daughter.  Pictures of the party were ultimately pinned to Pinterest boards.


The comment:
"Uneccessary should be the theme of the party :)" 
 Another comment, in response to the first
"hahaha I know but its sooo cute"


What Julie said: 
She responded with a link to this picture...

Hope you are having a good weekend. I am sorry that you don't appreciate my love of crafts and parties. Regardless of your comment thank you for pinning this and looking at my blog. Have a great school year! 


What Julie wanted to say:
Why did you feel the need to pin it under your Birthday Parties board if you felt it so "unnecessary". If you have nothing nice to say don't say it at all, you're obviously jealous that you can't create cute things from scratch like me. Oh, and did you realize you spelled "Unecessary" incorrectly? If you're going to hate, at least spell your hate mail correctly.  So to all of the haters that think just because you put a smiley face on the end of a tacky comment it makes it better... you're wrong, it is still tacky, rude and inconsiderate. 


Viv says:
Wow. I don't understand why someone would pin something to an inspiration board if they didn't like it.  So basically, if anything is unnecessary, it would be this lame person who spends time on Pinterest, pinning things they don't like.  Life is too short to pin things that you don't like.  

Also? All birthday parties, holidays, celebrations, etc are technically "unnecessary"  but we have them anyway.  We put love into the details because we care about the people we are do it all for. Duh.  How much would it suck to only live your life in a way that was necessary...?


Mandi says:
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! The haters are corrupting the beautiful time suck that is Pinterest?!?!  What is this world coming to?  Yes, birthday parties are unnecessary but so are pants.  You still wear pants don't you?  Also if you don't throw your kid a birthday party you have mom guilt for an entire year about it. (Trust me I know first hand).  Yay for Julie and her cute party and meanies...pin this.

And for the rest of you:

What do you say?

Some home remodel projects require stealth. It's just the way it is.

Loraine at Breakfast 4 Dinner encounters what many of us have encountered before: a husband that can't get with our DIY program.   He can't see our vision, he can't understand our concept... so sometimes we just go ahead and do it.  
Then, lo and behold! He gets it... He likes it... He's happy we did it.  (Until the next time when he forgets that we know what we're doing and we go through the same song and dance again...)
Loraine wrote up a funny post about how she started to re-do some counter tops, thinking she had hours to complete the project, but her husband decided to come home early.  She got not one, but two snarky comments doling out criticism and marital advice.

Anonymous #1 said...

So....... you did some remodeling without discussing it with your husband purposely and lied about it. Yeah.... if I was your husband I would consider whether or not I would leave you. Who knows what other kinds of huge decisions you would make behind my back. There would be a lack of trust regardless if he liked the outcome or not. Communication and trust are very important factors in having a successful marriage.

Anonymous #2 said...

You shouldn't have to hide stuff unless you know it is wrong or a surprise because you care or love the person.

Our Slammed Blogger says:

Wow anonymous, Thanks you so much for the most awesome marriage advice. But I shouldn't take advice from some one that would be so quick to divorce.  Now here is some for you:

1.Don't jump to judgment or conclusions.

2. Research before you leave such a hate-full comment.
You obviously aren't familiar with my blog at all. If you had taken the time to scroll down to some of my other postings to learn a little more about me, you would soon figure out that my husband is a very, very easy going guy and likes my home remodeling projects and that he doesn't require me to consult him before I start one because 

• a.He totally trusts my judgment
• b.Because I don't require him to help me with them at all
• c.Because he knows that I start projects spontaneously. 

He knew that before we got married and that is one of the things loves about me. I get an idea in my head and within 5 minutes I have the power tools out.  As a matter of fact, he wouldn't have it any other way because he loves it when I am happy. And yes, I did do a home remodeling project without telling him because of the reasons above. The reason I hid everything from him is yes, because I wanted to surprise him with the finished project. Not come home to a mess in the kitchen with no counter tops because I love him and want him to be able to come home and relax without having to smell stinky wood varnish.

3. Please call your mother and ask her why she forgot to teach you manners.

By the way....I finished the counter tops today and My husband loves them and took the old ones out to the curb for me and finished cooking dinner so I could finish up one last coat of paint.

It's good that I'm not married to you because I would have a very hard time dealing with a very rude control freak of a spouse that I'm sure you are. If you're even married at all.

Viv says:
Loraine clearly said it all regarding the anonymous comments, but I am cracking up over the hypocrisy contained in them! 

Anonymous comment #1 touts communication and trust as highly important in a relationship, yet would advocate leaving a spouse without getting the full story. (In other words, Anonymous' spouse probably lives in constant fear that they'll leave over some  misunderstanding.)

Anonymous comment #2 says you should only hide things if you know it's wrong, or if you're planning a surprise party.  (In other words, it's OK to do The Wrong Thing if you hide it.  Accountability is for suckers.)  Nice.

(By the way.  Who doesn't love the occasional omelette or stack of pancakes for dinner!?)

Mandi says:

Gosh you two already said it all!  As I was reading the first anonymous comment the thought I had was, oh poor girl.  Her husband is one of those freaky types that like to have a say in stuff....She must not be a DIY blogger.  Hee hee hee
And as for #2 if you were cheating on your husband and he caught you and you said SURPRISE!  Does that mean that its all good in the hood? 

I also just need to profess my love for anonymous commenters.  You make my life so happy and full of laughter.  Thank you and keep it up meanies!

What do you say?

The Anti-Social Quilt Project

Amber at Quilted Euphoria wrote up this post where she described how and why she made this tongue in cheek, cute little sign regarding unexpected visitors.

She received the following Anonymous comment:

I feel it's offensive and passive agressive behavior. Have you ever said, "I know you took the time to come to see me/us, but I just don't want any company today. Maybe you could call me tomorrow and we'll set up a time to get together." It's truthful, kind, and handled in a mature way. You, and many others, may find it funny but I doubt you'd feel that way if someone hung that on their door and you dropped by to say "hi." But as they say, "opinions are like noses...everybody has one." 

Amber says:

Um...excuse me? So many things wrong with this person! Let's count them, shall we?

1. This is my blog, my home, and my sign. If you don't like what it says, you're welcome to leave.
2. Sometimes people just don't respond to "nice". Sometimes you just can't get the person to leave, without being "passive aggressive".
3. Guess what? I think it's funny and so do the seventeen comments before yours from people with an actual sense of humor.
4. Get a life.

Viv says:

I've seen a similar sign for sale in Hallmark.  I had no idea that Hallmark was offensive and passive aggressive.  Who knew?!

Mandi says:

As Michelle on Full House would say "Oh Puuuleeeeeeeeeze."  I never answer my door (well, since the paparazzi started camping out on my lawn).  I thought the sign was funny.  Its her house she can do what she wants (duh).  Just like you Miss Anonymous can put up a sign on your front door that says "Caution, enter at your own risk.  I am perfect and am probably going to judge the crap out of you.  I am also chicken pants and dont usuallyre attach my name to my critiques, so I probably wont say it to your face but to everyone else in the neighborhoood.  Consider yourself warned"

What do you say?