Friday, May 27, 2011

Clash of the Crafters

There is a monthly craft contest called One Month To Win It.  (Think Survivor meets Iron Chef meets Project Runway.)  In a Final Round, Emily from Homemade {lovely} made a picnic bag to hold utensils.  In the crafter's description of her picnic bag, she wrote:
I know they sell backpack things already stocked with everything you could ever need for a picnic and more, but one, I think those things are a bit tacky, and two, they are definitely a bit of an overkill. I don't know about you, but I have NEVER needed champagne glasses on a picnic. 

Apparently, this reference of "a bit tacky" really upset one of the readers, who left the following comment: 
I'm not voting for the picnic basket because, while it's cute and creative your write up was super offensive. I love my picnic backpack and when my husband and I dated we loved to go and sip wine on our picnics so the plastic wine glasses were fun on a picnic level. You should be more careful about how you write and think about who your audience might be when you say things. You could have easily made your point without putting anyone down.

Emily was gracious enough not to go for the jugular in her response:  
...I'm sorry if my post offended you. If you knew me, you would know the last thing I would ever want to do is offend someone else or hurt their feelings. You are right, I should have just said that those types of backpack bags are not my thing and left it at that. It sounds like you and your husband had a great time using them. Again, sorry.   I am posting this anonymously to try and respect the anonymity of the voting and the competition.

Gracious, right?
Not good enough for the Cranky Commentor: 
Thanks to the creator of the bag for your follow up comment. I know you didn't intend to offend so I made my comment to point out how it came across to someone who has fond memories of picnic dates with a backpack and having someone associate the word "tacky" with it. I have a feeling you got some sympathy votes since people thought I was lashing out at you, which I WAS NOT. I know in writing it is hard to establish tone, my comment was not an attack, just saying how I felt effected my vote. Your project is very cute and creative, I am looking forward to checking out your other projects when your identity is announced this week!

Several other comments expressed support for Emily, but after anonymous left her follow-up comment, it was just too much for one of them and she got the last word:  
You clearly have a few issues. You became offended by such a slight comment that it was pretty ridiculous. AND THEN, after being apologized to, you write a snarky "I have a feeling you got some sympathy votes since people thought I was lashing out at you". That comment is so passive-agressive and petty.  I have a feeling you are a person who thrives on drama. Let it go and you will be a lot happier and a lot less easily offended.

Viv Says:
When one finds oneself in a hole, the best thing to do is TO STOP DIGGING! 
Sometimes while we try to get one foot out of our mouth, we end up putting the other one in as well. Cranky Commentor needs to just stop. speaking.  Stop Speaking!  She also needs to realize that she is not the center of the universe and that she should not filter everything she sees and hears through her "it's all about me" perspective.  

Mandi Says:
Whoa, whoa, whoa.  I know I've been MIA for a week or so and have been painting pretty much the ENTIRE time but I cannot wrap my head around this one.  So Mrs. Anonymous is being a meanie cause our cute crafter slightly slammed plastic wine glasses in a tacky picnic bag? Guuuurl.  See we are blessed with this weird thing, you may have never heard of it but its called an OPINION.  Personally I dont use toilet paper cause I think its a crime against mother nature.  Chew on that.

Actually I do use toilet paper, which reminds me I need to go to the store.


clearness said...

I didn't find anything mean about the original comment. Opinions are like......what's that they say? Oh well. But this is just my opinion.

Lesley said...

I have to say that when I read the initial " I think those things are a bit tacky " thing, I wasn't offended, but aware that it was not a cool thing to say.
If going on picnics and sipping champagne during said picnics was my thing, I might be offended and can see where the commenter was going. But she didn't have to be catty ( especially after the writer apologized ) and for that I give her a big You Suck Award.

Emily said...

Thanks ladies... I love the responses!

MiMi said...

Wow. People need to relax.
Frankie Says Relax.

Judy C said...

I never cease to be amazed by how many people can be offended by absolutely nothing. If someone thinks something is tacky, fine. That's their opinion and in no way puts me down. I'm glad to have learned in my great age that I'm not that important.

Amber said...

She was offended because someone said that plastic champagne glasses on a picnic are tacky? SERIOUSLY?!

She sounds like she has too much time on her hands and has nothing better to do than to fish for something to get cranky about. Now THERE'S something to be offended by!

Rebecca@This Present Life said...

Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't Emily saying that the plastic, champagne glasses are tacky? NOT going on romantic, picnic dates with your husband. Why would this commentor be sticking up for plasticware?

Jen said...

As one of my favorite Bible study writers says, "some people just have the spirit of offense". Some people will just get offended at EVERYTHING no matter what you say. I myself like the champagne glasses cause we like to drink on our picnics, but the fact that someone else thinks they are "slightly tacky" or whatever she said does not in the least offend me. She's entitled to think whatever she wants. SHE'S THE ONE MAKING THE BAG!!! Anyways, there's my 2 cents....

Just this... Alice said...

What I find tacky in it all are her comments. I have never had wine on a picnic with another adult due to the consumption of alchol and its effects. I would save that for a romantic picnic on the living room floor with a fire in the fireplace and no need to drive afterward. But since I don't drink this is not a problem with me. Our picnics always centered around the children and an adventureous outing of discovery.A fabric covered box with slots for handles sufficed for the non perishable items. Coolers with ice for the perishables was the choice. I love the idea of your bag now that the nest is empty. And since we all have choices I choose to stand behind your original comment. Mrs. Tacky anonoumous would never be invited on a picnic of mine.

Ashley said...

HAHAHAHAHA. this blog is BRILLIANT. Im obsessed. I've gotten some crazy things said to me, and Ive learned to laugh. People ALWAYS have something to say about EVERYTHING!

chris said...

she clearly needs more wine. maybe she'll relax enough to remove thy stick from.... well you know.

Heather at Dragonfly Designs said...

So I had to go and read all of the comments. WOW! Sucky is about all I can say. Did you see the last comment about how catty we crafters are? LOL