The Slammed Blogger said:
I received my first nasty Anonymous comment here on my blog the other night.
"Anonymous" didn't agree with my conservative views. That's okay with me, honest! I read bunches of blogs each day, and I don't always agree with the writers' points of view. I'd be really bored if everyone agreed with me.
What I don't do is respond with name calling.
Yes, I know I'm fat. Yes, I know I'm white. Do you really need to point that out? Really? My weight is something I'm working on, and I can't help the pale. I think I have some albino lineage somewhere in my family tree.
Although "Anonymous" was correct in her (I know it must have been a "her" because a man would never sink to this) assessment that I am indeed a "fat white lady," it still stung.
No one likes to read their deepest criticism of themselves in print. On their computer screens. Where hundreds of other people will read it.
Not too many years ago, a comment like that would have pushed me into a familiar dark place. A place where a scoop of ice cream would mean running around the block a few times, doing stairs once home, and then hundreds of sit ups until feeling satisfactorily thin again and on the verge of collapse.
The words hurt, yes.
But instead of sinking into that murky hole, I chatted up a few blogging friends. Not only had they felt the sting of a nasty comment or two, but they knew just how to deal with it.
I used my delete button.
I deleted the comment, and I deleted my angry response to Anonymous.
To Anonymous: Ditto everything that Amanda said. Except the delete part….post it here instead!!
Amanda you are such a strong and beautiful person. I love that you were not afraid to share where that comment could have taken you and I am so glad that you have albino lineage in your fam, cause I do too and so that probably means that we are related! Holla Sistah!!
Good job Amanda for working this all out in a healthy manner and taking the high road.
Once, at a party a very uptight woman looked down her nose at Sir Winston Churchill and said in a disapproving voice, "Mr. Churchill, you're drunk!" It was reported that Churchill gave her a brief glance and said, "Yes, but tomorrow I will be sober and you will still be ugly."
To the mean, anonymous commenter: Amanda can lose weight and possibly get a tan, but I fear you will always be a socially awkward dork who can't get anyone to talk to them at parties.